How Relationships Change in Medical School

Session 46

Session 46

In this episode, Ryan and Allison talk about relationships in medical school which include personal relationships, relationships with family and friends, and newly-formed friendships.

This is a very important topic to discuss because, in more ways than one, becoming physicians will affect you and relationships do change. Getting lost with friends and family can be inevitable. They simply are not going through the exact things you're going through so it's easy for frustration and tension to arise. Therefore, understanding and good communication are crucial at this point in your life in order for you to be able to focus on your path to medicine while still be able to maintain healthy relationships.

On a more positive note, medical school is where you get to meet new, awesome friends or even the love of your life!

Here are the highlights of the conversation with Ryan and Allison:

Why relationships change:

  • Limited time to interact with the outside world
  • Most of your time is spent on studying
  • Medical school is very different from college
  • Once you enter the medical school world, you speak a new language

Effects of changing relationships:

  • Frustration and tension from people who's not going through your situation
  • You can't explain to another person who's not going through what you're going through

Sharing information to your friends not in medicine:

  • Friends not in medicine need limits – not everyone likes to hear about the gooey stuff you do because it's not something they're comfortable with
  • Figuring out what people's comfort level is

Ryan's pet peeve: Families and friends asking you if you're a doctor yet

  • Residents are doctors
  • Overwhelming amount of details for families to take in

New relationships built in medical school:

  • As things are changing, you also get to form new relationships in medical school
  • You're with these people all the time so you get to know them and grow with them

On personal relationships:

  • They don't always make it through medical school.
  • There is that disconnect.
  • The concept that there's something in your partner's life that is taking away from their time with you leading to jealousy and frustration
  • You may also find the love of your life in medical school.

Some pieces of advice for premed students:

  • People understand how hard you're working so be patient with your family and friends if there is a discrepancy between what they understand and what you're trying to share with them.
  • Reserve as much time as you can to keep those relationships going.
  • Communication is key. Let your families and friends know that you still love them and care about them but you're just in the middle of something really busy.
  • Enjoy meeting new people in medical school.

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